Book Club (Queer Theme): Unlimited Intimacy: Reflections on the Subculture of Barebacking by Tim Dean

9780226139395Date: Nov 2018

Book: Barebacking—when gay men deliberately abandon condoms and embrace unprotected sex—has incited a great deal of shock, outrage, anger, and even disgust, but very little contemplation. Purposely flying in the face of decades of safe-sex campaigning and HIV/AIDS awareness initiatives, barebacking is unquestionably radical behavior, behavior that most people would rather condemn than understand. Thus the time is ripe for Unlimited Intimacy, Tim Dean’s riveting investigation into barebacking and the distinctive subculture that has grown around it.

Audacious and undeniably provocative, Dean’s profoundly reflective account is neither a manifesto nor an apology; instead, it is a searching analysis that tests the very limits of the study of sex in the twenty-first century. Dean’s extensive research into the subculture provides a tour of the scene’s bars, sex clubs, and Web sites; offers an explicit but sophisticated analysis of its pornography; and documents his own personal experiences in the culture. But ultimately, it is HIV that animates the controversy around barebacking, and Unlimited Intimacy explores how barebackers think about transmitting the virus—especially the idea that deliberately sharing it establishes a new network of kinship among the infected. According to Dean, intimacy makes us vulnerable, exposes us to emotional risk, and forces us to drop our psychological barriers. As a committed experiment in intimacy without limits—one that makes those metaphors of intimacy quite literal—barebacking thus says a great deal about how intimacy works.

Please read “Introduction” (pp. 1-47) and Chapter 1 (pp. 48-96). If you’re interested in other chapters, please go ahead and read it.

Place: Tom N Tom’s
Icon Village, 10 Gopeng Street
Please be on time wait outside Tom N Tom’s and we will proceed somewhere private for the discussion.



Date: Dec 2018

Book: (a) BYOB. Bring your own Book. Bring a LGBTQ book that you like and want to introduce to the book club. (b) We’ll be celebrating our 10th year anniversary in 2019. Please come and share your ideas on how we can celebrate. (c) We’ll also appreciate feedback for some of the things you want to see in the book club in 2019.

Place: Tom N Tom’s
Icon Village, 10 Gopeng Street
Please be on time wait outside Tom N Tom’s and we will proceed somewhere private for the social.



4 responses to “Events

  1. joyce

    How do I join or find our more information if I do not have facebook? Is there an email contact?

  2. Hi! We are at Tom N Tom but cannot find you! Where are you guys? xx

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